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    Sam Self love 2

    What is this new craze? What’s all the hype about?!

    Haven’t you heard? Self-love is the new black. It’s THE thing to do for you in 2017.

    Self-love is about you, and for you - ONLY you. By working on you, focusing on you and taking responsibility for yourself – you are making way for others to do the same. To treat you with the respect you deserve, but also to inspire them to take a look at themselves and raise their level of self-love too.

    “Self-love requires you, to be honest about your current choices and thought patterns and undertake new practices that reflect self-worth.” ~Caroline Kirk

    Just to clarify, we’re not talking about bubble baths, pedicures, and cucumber masks. It turns out there is so much more to self-love than just pampering ourselves.

    But, is it really what it sounds like?  Is it that obvious?  Yes, it is.

    As women we play so many different roles: wife, partner, mum, employer/employee, friend, daughter, sibling and the list goes on.  As a woman, how many times have you put yourself last? I’m a single mum so I get double the responsibility and even less time to myself than most. I found myself taking care of everyone else, to the point of exhaustion. Depleted of energy and resources, and feeling completely drained.  Sadly this was a daily occurrence, and over time I became no use to anyone.

    Early this year, I had that ‘a-ha’ moment, and knew that I simply had to make myself a priority as well.

    We chase other things, start businesses (I’ve started two this year), and juggle multiple side projects in order to avoid the problems we really should be dealing with (but don’t want to). The ones that we know, really are  the most important.

    Here are three ways to take care of yourself, no matter how little time you have: 

    1. Do one thing that makes you happy every single day. Go to the gym. Read a few pages of that book you’ve been meaning to start. Write in a journal. Go for long walks alone. Go window shopping. Take a long hot bath. If you’re creative then create something new.  


    1. Grow yourself. Know what your vision is for your life. The highest vision you can have of yourself. Be clear on your purpose. Be clear on your goals. Develop your own vision and goals, know what you want to do and why. Remember that this is YOUR life  not anyone else’s.


     You can’t give what you don’t have.

     It’s far easier to spread love, enthusiasm, and be an inspiration to others when you’re full of it yourself. So take the time for you.

     Self-love isn’t selfish, it’s essential. Self-love is the new black. 

    Sam self love

  2. Mental Health by Elizabeth

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    Elizabeth Mental Health 1

    Swings and roundabouts


    I'd like to introduce you all to the world of mental health, many of you already know first hand what this can be like and believe me, you are NOT alone.


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    Just how common is a mental health disorder??


    My name is Liz, I am diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, general anxiety and social anxiety. I currently work within network marketing which is something I really enjoy. I started my journey seven years ago, back in 2010. After many visits to my GP, they placed me under the adult mental heath team and not long after I was diagnosed with bipolar. Two years went on with this diagnosis but they then realised I don’t have bipolar.


    Unfortunately, I did discharge myself from their care due to impatience. Four years ago I had a huge positive push from my partner to get it all sorted, so that is just what I did. Yes it was hard, mainly due to anxiety but I did it. I still suffer today but I am grateful to have found my voice which now leads me to support. This was the best thing I ever did. Now my aim is to help others and spread awareness.


    My reason behind this is that you need to know you are not alone. There is always someone out there who is struggling just like you are. Maybe a loved one is struggling and you simply don’t know how you can help? I was once at a point where I thought I really didn't have anyone. I had many friends and my family and they are lovely but I truly felt alone. You don't need to feel this way, no one does. My fear of everything took over, I honestly thought no one would care, they'll think I'm being stupid, they will think less of me or even that I would somehow be letting them down. Things were overwhelming that I went to extremes.


    I later realised seeking treatment is not a weakness. It’s actually one of the bravest things you will ever do. I am no longer in a huge black hole which just seems to go on forever with almost no light at the tunnel. Instead I've learnt different methods to help myself. With 4 years of consistent help, both professional and personal help from friends and family, there is now more light in my life and I plan on only ever improving this light. I didn't need to live in the dark and you sure as heck don't either. There are so many things the world doesn't know about mental health and the way it affects you not only at the time but also later too. There are no quick fixes, there is no instant healing pill and there is no magic spell for this. Everything won’t just fall into place but suddenly the world doesn't seem to hate you any more.


    Based on 2016 survey figures, how common are specific mental health problems?


    Generalised anxiety disorder affects 5.9 people in every 100. Many people you come across will tell you they suffer with anxiety at one level or another. Some are diagnosed and some are not. Personally, I have come to understand that life isn’t all sweet, people worry. It’s actually in our nature.


    Depression affects 3.3 in every 100. I have spoken to a few people and asked just one simple question. Which mental health illness is most common? 9 out of 10 said depression. As you will see, that’s actually not true. Phobias, panic disorders and OCD’s came in under 3 people for every 100. Phobias at 2.4, panic disorder at 0.6 and OCD at 1.3. Post traumatic stress disorder shows 4.4 people in every 100 suffer with this, this will be a subject in which I shall be taking on so continue reading monthly to check this one out.


    Now for mixed anxiety and depression. The dreaded duo as I call it. For some this isn’t a problem and for others it is. This is the most common mental health problem to have. More than double that of depression alone.


    Did you know that you or someone you know is twice as likely to struggle with a mental health issue than get breast cancer. Without going on about more numbers and statistics... That’s massive.


    I will be interviewing others and writing from first hand experience about all forms of mental health. This could be depression, anxiety, autism, OCD and so much more. If you do not have a care plan and you find yourself needing urgent care due to mental health,

    then you can absolutely can ring your GP for urgent care or go to your local A&E.


    My next article will be purely based on OCD, how this affects people and others around them. Facts, figures and details of who to contact if you're in need of someone. Please stay tuned, until next time...

    Elizabeth Mental Health 3